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Gender Myths About Orgasm
In reality there are few hard and fast rules about orgasm. While it is true that more then fifty percent of even sexy woman cannot climax through penetration. and need to have there clit played with in order to climax hard. And that premature ejaculation has a profound effect on men. Beyond that all bets are off and the best way to find out how to pleasure a partner is to ask them. There are women that cum quickly and many times and there are women that can only cum when they are being spanked. Men can be much the same way. Each sexual partner is a new adventure. That is not to say that the vulva massage DVD should be tossed out. The basic information is good. just check in and see if it is any use to your partner for the night. Many men can go out and take a Tantra weekend workshop and when done fallow every little thing as if they are trying to prefect a recipe for a cake. For a good number of encounters it may work but not for all. Just ask them what they want. And do not leave them to do to much guess work. Tell them what it is that excites
Say something like cock worship is the turn on that leads to orgasm and the other partner just does not have a clue what to do. Have fun teaching them. Just know that this is not going to be the most polished session of manly adoration that has ever been and take pleasure in the willingness of the other person to try it on. It is the same the other way if she likes to be Topped and there is no knowledge in the memory banks for that. Just ask her to tell you a fantasy and fallow the vibe of it like a guide. Be careful to take care of boundaries when trying on new things. If the orgasm is slow to arrive relax into touch and stroking help each other to cum and share how each of you self touch.
Have As Many As You Like
A man’s whole body from his nose to his toes is made to feel pleasure. Culturally men are pressured to achieve sex with a woman more than they are they are ever shown how to deeply enjoy it. This is one of the main reasons that women see many men as hit-and-run artists. You cannot create what you have not experienced for yourself very well or often. You might be able to stumble on it though. Even if you do get your lady there can you both go back there.
As a man you are fostered into the belief to some degree that your genitalia have a mind of their own. So much so that you might begin to view them as separate from the rest of your body. Your groin becomes a powerful urge all unto its self with no connection to the rest of your wonderful powerful biddies. Free your sexual feelings from the focused area of your groin. Even without taking sexual meditation there are some simple practices that you can do that will give you more pleasure for a longer period of time. You can even master being able to reach orgasm with-out losing your erection. Get in the habit of breathing deeply and in a natural rhythm during sex. Go slow even if you are alone. Push past feelings of awkwardness and do self massage all over you body. Help your lady out. Many women are conditioned to touch your groin more than anything else. Invite her to touch all of you. Model for her touch her the same way you wish to be touched. When your pleasure is intense breath in deep when it lulls breath out slowly. You will notice over time that your whole body will get involve and soon you will able to hold your ejaculate.
To go deeper into the practice of enjoying your orgasms or reaching new heights with it, find a good Tantra teacher or take a Kudilini yoga class.
Skills For Seduction
When a man or women is single and looking they must learn skills to get along in their dating life. Even on-line dating has protocols for one to adhere to for more frequent replies, and certainly face-to-face meetings between the sexes require some sort of interplay that is unspoken but yet understood all the same. Less rules then skills one must learn for whatever the occasion and whatever type of person one encounters, a dating guy and girl-no matter who they are dating- must have skills for, at the very least, interesting another person, at the most making someone orgasm.
The skills needed to see us through the first stages of dating all the way through to taking someone to our bed require years of practice and study. Our approach to another person starts as much with a word and a side-long glance, as it might with a full hard-court press of interest or letting someone know we are interested through a third party. The specifics of what’s said and more importantly how it is said, requires a skillful reading of the situation we find ourselves and our object of desire in. In this day and age of political correctness one must play out their gambit and know full well their approach is not misunderstood.
This requires a sense of style and a more than just a modicum of skill.
Furthering seduction our skills needed to get more acute in their execution. Knowing what wine to purchase, how to apply make-up, or when to offer a nightcap-and when to accept one-the girl or guy on the make must step even lighter as further interpersonal contact-or sex-is imminent. Sprinkle in some normal trepidation, maybe a failed recent relationship or to, even different ethnicities between a couple, and the amount of skill require grows exponentially.
Lastly, landing in the bedroom, one must call on all one’s skills when fucking and sucking, tickling and teasing, and fondling and feeling. One will come to regard all the time they spent acquiring and honing their skills well worth their time the more successful their tryst is. The march up to the moment of truth and how much a lover might be willing to have more moments with us should speak volumes to how much all our skills, from surfing on-line, to ordering wine to licking pussy or sucking cock are finely tuned!
Sex Gets Better With Age
As any intimate committed couple ages, the shift in their shared or even individual erotic desire and tastes can change. The natural aging process is a factor in sexual activity and interest as is normal human desire for change. Being prepared for those changes is a key to a successful marriage or any long-term couple’s commitment.
Some of the changes are biological of course. Women’s bodies do not lubricate as easily after the age of 40 and while this does not mean women are not interested in sex it does mean attention to this natural aging process needs to be addressed. Keeping a water-based lube handy for those times of sexual intimacy is an adult solution for continued pleasure.
For men factors of an aging body will play a role in how often erections will occur and how long they might last. Refractory times lengthen the older a man gets and his ability to have multiple orgasms also becomes a questions as he ages. Of course there are medications to assist with any number of male virility conundrums but the simple fact that a man at 50 is not the same sexually as he might have been as 30 is nothing to fret about too intently as we face and accept our age.
Aging can slow down physical and sexual responses. Rather than fighting it, both sexes should simply acquiesce. Taking time to reacquaint with ones partner’s erogenous zones, morphing foreplay into the sole intimacy for the evening, maybe introducing toys or sexual kinks into bedroom play are very much welcomed when responses are slowing down or not as heated as they once were. The married couple might be able to experiment now with children out of the house; aging together can be regarded as a luxury because of the experience of a deeper intimacy developed over years and years. The simple act of taking more time to heat-up, consider and explore will result in a much longer love-making session not so focused on just orgasm or the amount of them.
Medical conditions can also affect sexual desire and orgasms as a couple ages. Simple communication will see most couples, straight, gay, bi through any foul weather changes, or seeming retards in the way two people deal with one another. Adapting to these changes, exploring new sexual interests and addressing the interactions of medicine can all be valuable areas for a loving couple to choose so that they can grow older together in all aspects of their lives.